tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3776718502786513769.post5162166457285793348..comments2023-10-25T04:40:45.027-07:00Comments on CD 1 again.....: Measure of Love discussionAprilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08019827440946283439noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3776718502786513769.post-60175007940520484932013-06-16T13:55:10.572-07:002013-06-16T13:55:10.572-07:00It's so hard to know when you love someone whe...It's so hard to know when you love someone when you're overstepping a line and when you're trying to help but your help falls flat. Because I do think there is a difference. My cousin is getting married soon, and -- to me -- overstepping a line would be making her dozens of button bouquets and then telling her that I made them for all the bridesmaids to carry down the aisle. I don't get to plan her wedding for her (as much as I really want to!). BUT I also think there have been times when I've offered to do something, not knowing where she has stood on an issue, and that is help that falls flat. <br /><br />I probably would have been help-shy by the end and would have never tried the move of matching Lisbeth with her mother.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3776718502786513769.post-32186259920527636252013-06-14T08:25:40.651-07:002013-06-14T08:25:40.651-07:00I have to agree with the others. Some of Rachel...I have to agree with the others. Some of Rachel's meddling bothered me, but this was probably the least of her sins. ;) Maybe telling the NY Times reporter to talk to Lisbeth was a bit over the line -- but I think bringing Lisbeth & Anita together on the wedding planning front was a nice thing to do (and also got Anita out of her hair, lol) -- she knew what both of them wanted, but wouldn't admit to each other, and nudged them together. loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3776718502786513769.post-31576615930027969192013-06-14T02:11:40.628-07:002013-06-14T02:11:40.628-07:00Yes, in this particular case I think she did the r...Yes, in this particular case I think she did the right thing by mention it. While the mother and daughter misunderstood each other and didn't think the other one wanted to help, cared enough etc Rachel made that clear for them. <br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3776718502786513769.post-63814806233079211822013-06-13T22:53:32.246-07:002013-06-13T22:53:32.246-07:00I'm going to have to revisit this question whe...I'm going to have to revisit this question when I have a bit more of the book under my belt! I'll be back! :)Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15032718306225742021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3776718502786513769.post-57619728510059010052013-06-13T18:12:00.578-07:002013-06-13T18:12:00.578-07:00I think, in this case of Rachel's meddling, sh...I think, in this case of Rachel's meddling, she did the right thing. Lisbeth didn't think her mom wanted anything to do with her wedding because she was ashamed of her & Anita didn't think Lisbeth would want her involved so stayed out of it. Without Rachel's meddling, neither would have learned the true feelings of the other...Tiarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17511522028218347560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3776718502786513769.post-46904448328488713052013-06-13T12:11:15.438-07:002013-06-13T12:11:15.438-07:00I think intentions do matter, and Rachel had no il...I think intentions do matter, and Rachel had no ill-intentions. It's just that in trying to dig into her own psyche and figure out what was her core issue, she didn't approach the others in her life very mindfully. <br /><br />So yes, if she'd been more conscious of her own issues, she'd have had less inclination to meddle in the affairs of her loved ones.<br /><br />But once she did figure out herself, everything else untangled, too.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3776718502786513769.post-62839619797305541962013-06-13T12:03:59.060-07:002013-06-13T12:03:59.060-07:00Absolutely, she could have been up front with ever...Absolutely, she could have been up front with everyone and avoided many misunderstandings. But she's not that kind of person - the one who calls people on their behavior. She's the good friend who tries to understand and make things right, but without making it painful for others by discussing it thoroughly. Meddling is what she would do. I guess that's one of the life lessons to be found - your intentions may be good, but if your communications are inadequate, it can all go very wrong.<br /><br />In the end people got what they wanted, so that is good. And Rachel learned some things too.areyoukiddingmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16107214079237461141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3776718502786513769.post-73506921545651746992013-06-13T11:56:34.508-07:002013-06-13T11:56:34.508-07:00I think it is really hard when someone has good in...I think it is really hard when someone has good intentions to be upset with them, but that doesn't mean if they hurt us or meddle in others' business, especially ours, that it isn't frustrating, uncomfortable, painful and/or awkward. <br /><br />Could Rachel have handled this in a different way? Absolutely, but (even though she is fictional character), then she might not be who she is (the woman that Adam loves/wants to remarry and so many others care so much about), wonderful qualities, quirks and weaknesses. Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04175833982955486083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3776718502786513769.post-43567955329183171362013-06-13T11:49:54.230-07:002013-06-13T11:49:54.230-07:00I don't think it makes it right even though sh...I don't think it makes it right even though she did mean well, but I think it makes it easier to understand why she did what she did. Kinda a gray line though sometimes! Janehttp://twobeesinlove.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com